How to Network Without Feeling Fake

Rethinking What Networking Really Is

If the word “networking” makes you cringe, you’re not alone. It’s often associated with awkward mixers, forced conversations, and handing out business cards like candy. But real networking isn’t about performance. It’s about genuine connection.

When you take the pressure off and start thinking in terms of curiosity, generosity, and conversation, networking becomes less fake—and far more effective.

Lead with Curiosity

The best networkers aren’t the ones who talk the most. They’re the ones who ask great questions. What are you working on right now? What’s one thing you wish more people understood about your field? Questions like these open doors to honest, engaging conversations.

When you approach someone with the mindset of What can I learn from them? instead of What can I get from them?, the dynamic shifts—and so does your confidence.

Add Value Without Expecting Immediate Return

You don’t have to be an expert or an insider to offer value. Sometimes value is just being helpful, thoughtful, or consistent. Share an article they’d appreciate. Make an intro. Offer a kind word when they land a win.

This is networking that lasts. Not transactional. Not fake. Just human.